Safe Sex Is Very Important – Here Are Some Tips!

Sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies can be greatly reduced by practicing safe sex. Even thought no method of safe sex is 100% effective, it is still much better than not using any protection. The methods of protection, while not foolproof, still greatly reduce the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease or an unwanted pregnancy.

So, if you choose to engage in sexually activity, it’s always important to use some form of protection. The following will outline some of the options available including abstinence and monogamy, both male and female condoms, and oral contraception.

Abstinence is still the best and safest method of preventing both pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. It is 100% effective. Although it is the only foolproof method, it is not the most popular choice. The next best option if you are unwilling to practice abstinence, is to engage in sexual activities with only one person, in a monogamous relationship.

A monogamous relationship means that both you and your partner engage in sexual activity with no one but each other. While monogamy is not an effective method of birth control, it does minimize the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. As long as both you and your partner are free of diseases and remain committed to each other, you will remain free of diseases. Abstinence and monogamy are both highly effective safe sex methods. Abstinence is effective at preventing both pregnancy and diseases while monogamy helps to prevent diseases only.

The condom is one of the better methods available for avoiding sexually transmitted diseases. When they’re properly used they are also 97%-98% effective in preventing pregnancy. Male condoms are easily accessible in drug stores, grocery stores, and even vending machines. They are also inexpensive. There are male and female versions of the condom available. Male condoms are more popular. The male condom is a thin sheath, usually made of latex that fits over the penis and acts as a barrier to the exchange of bodily fluids during intercourse. Even if they aren’t used correctly, they are still very effective in preventing pregnancy (88%-90% effective). So even though they are effective, they are still not 100% reliable. The risk still exists, however small, of getting pregnant or contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

The female condom is a polyurethane sheath that lines the entire vagina. The closed end is inserted into the vagina and the open end remains outside the body. It’s been available only since the 1990’s and is not as readily available at the male condom. If you can find it, you will also pay more for it, since it costs more than a male condom. It is however, just as effective as the male condom in preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

There are oral contraceptives available as well that are very effective in preventing pregnancy. These however, do not protect against sexually transmitted diseases. An oral contraceptive is a pill that is taken daily which uses hormones to prevent pregnancy. If used correctly, the pill is 97-99% effective.

As with any drug, there are side effects that come along with pill usage. Most of these side effects are mild. Some side effects include weight changes, nausea, irritability and breast tenderness. Even though these aren’t severe, they can be avoided altogether. Today there are numerous varieties of pills on the market. Talk to your doctor and find out which is best for you. Again, while oral contraceptives are effective against preventing pregnancy, they do not work against contracting sexually transmitted diseases. If you are not sure that your partner is free of disease, you should consider using another form of safe sex method as a back up to prevent these diseases.

If you want to avoid pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, it is best to take all the measure you can to practice safe sex. So while abstinence is the only 100% effective method against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, there are other options out there to explore that offer good benefits. Monogamy is effective in protection against sexually transmitted diseases, while condoms and birth control pills are effective against unwanted pregnancies.

What is Safe Sex – Emotionally and Physically?

What is safe sex?

Safe sex is more than just birth control, it’s about knowing how to take care of yourself, as a woman, how to avoid bad things from happening. There’s no guarantee nothing will happen to you, but you can arm yourself with knowledge and a way of protecting yourself from physical and emotional hurt.

Physically Looking Out For Yourself

Self Defense

My first recommendation is every woman should take a self defense class. Call around there are usually places that offer it, it might be a gym, or a community organization. Most women I know can’t over power a man, we just don’t have the muscle that men have. But there are a lot of moves you can learn that have nothing to do with muscle mass, it will help you to defend yourself if you end up in a bad situation.

You may think that your instincts will kick in and you’ll just know what to do. That’s not always the case, it’s the fight or flight response, and most people want to run from the situation (not a bad idea) but a lot of people end up with that deer in the headlights look and really don’t know how to save themselves. Learning a few moves could save your life.

Out For Drinks / Girls Night Out

Whether your at the bar, a lounge, a restaurant or some one’s house there is the very real and scary possibility of date rape. If you go to a party/bar with a friend make sure you both know that you are going to leave together, even if you meet someone that night. This ensures that you’re not influenced into going somewhere else.

At all times watch your drink! Never leave it unattended. Do not put it down on a table, even for a moment. Do not let that drink leave your hands, it takes 2 seconds for something to be dropped into your drink and you’d never know it. If you have to leave your drink, have your friend watch it, or just don’t drink it, order a new drink. It may seem silly but date rape does happen and drinks do get drugged. Don’t let it happen to you!

We all like dressing up to go out. But make sure it’s tasteful, if you can basically see yourself naked through your outfit, you might want to pick another one. Don’t provoke unwanted attention.

How To Avoid Emotional Hurt

Part of safe sex is keeping yourself mentally and emotionally healthy. Some people can keep sex as just sex, but not everyone can be emotionally detached from it. Frequently it means more to the woman then it does to the man. Breaking up with your sexual partner can hurt a lot, especially after you have shared something so intimate.
Start with a relationship

Starting out with a relationship before heading to bed will help you in the long run. Not only are you having sex with someone you care about, but your less likely to be that one night stand. By having a relationship you get to learn about this person, see who they are and whether or not you want to share something that special with him. The better you know the person the more intimate and special that moment will be.

But if I don’t have sex with him, he won’t want to be with me. If that’s the kind of guy he is, then you don’t want to be dating him anyways! If you do have sex with him, because your scared he will leave, he will still leave, he will have gotten what he wanted and will have no more use for you. So drop this guy, there are plenty of great men out there.

So if you are going to have a relationship when should you have sex? The simple answer is when your ready. There’s no guarantee the man will respect you if you jump into bed with him too soon. A good rule of thumb is to wait until the 5th date or later to have sex with him. You should even wait for the oral stuff too. How does this sound? “Hey I just met this girl and she already has my dick in her mouth!” That doesn’t sound good at all and there’s no respect there.

Speak Up!

A lot of people have sex and don’t talk about it with their partner. I don’t think someone should have sex with another person if they aren’t able to talk about it with them. By not talking about it your missing a lot of information.

The first is STIs, that’s incredibly important, that’s your life we’re talking about. You need to discuss these things, find out if your partner has anything or has been recently tested. If you have an STI you need to tell your partner, if it was you, you’d want to know. Don’t give someone a life sentence.

The second thing is talking about what you like, what makes you feel good. There is no excuse for bad sex! If he cares about you, then he cares about pleasuring you. He won’t be happy if you fake it. Just tell him what you like, or guide him to what you like. He will tell you what he likes, and if he’s not, ask him, we’re talking about pleasuring each other and you want it to be good!

The third is what would the other person want to do if you got pregnant? It seems like it would be too early and scary to talk about that, but that is what sex is for, reproducing, and there is always a chance that you can get pregnant. You’re ideas may be entirely different from him. You can eliminate future complications by talking about the what if, before it happens.

Saying No, It’s Easier Then You Think!

Being able to say no is really hard for some people. Here are a few situations you should say no in.

When he says thinks like:

o If you love me you’ll do it.
o If you don’t, I’ll find someone who will.
o Everyone else is doing it.
o It doesn’t matter, it’s just sex.
o My ex used to do _______ for me.
o I love you. (But says it too soon and doesn’t mean it)
o You’re just frigid.
o You don’t want to die alone do you?
o But it just feels so good.
o I promise I’ll pull out.
o I promise I won’t tell anyone.
o I just want to put it in for a second.

When he does things like:

o Gets too grabby.
o Doesn’t stop or slow down when you ask him to (you should just run when this happens).
o Doesn’t ask if you want it or not.
o Yells out someone else’s name.
o Isn’t worried about your pleasure, just his own.
o He forgets your name
o Keeps bugging you about it after you’ve already said no.

Holly Edwards

The Woman’s Survival Guide to Sexual Health

Safe Sex – Is it Really Safe?

Safe Sex is Good For You . . .

Safe sex is good for you – it’s official – medical science says so, everyone wants it and billions of dollars are made through talking about it and selling it in one form or another. However, in the world of bioenergy – where we look at what’s happening to your energy and how it affects your life – things aren’t quite so simple.

According to science, sex stimulates your hormone production, relaxes you, makes you happier and improves your health. But, the problem with biological or medical science is all the other things that are going on that it fails to notice because it isn’t looking for them or simply doesn’t have the means of finding them.

. . . Or is it?

Take Alison for example. She came to see us, suffering from depression, skin problems (dryness, rashes and itching) and fatigue, as well as work, relationship and money problems. She’d tried the usual solutions for her health problems but hadn’t experienced any improvements.

One way we look at any kind of human problem is in terms of the presence of foreign (i.e. other people’s) energies in the body. This is because, when your own energy is properly integrated, you don’t make choices that generate problems in your life. But when your energy is compromised by the presence of a harmful foreign energy (any energy not native to the body is toxic for it), you start creating future problems as a direct consequence of its damaging influence on your words, thoughts and feelings and thus on your life decisions. Although foreign energies are usually unfelt and unseen, they have an ever-increasing negative impact on most people’s life and awareness as time passes.

With one exception (see below), all foreign energies inevitably cause future problems for their ‘owner’ – and not just health problems. Because of the time delay between first receiving a foreign energy and the start of a future problem, it’s impossible to perceive with normal awareness or scientific tests, the connections between new problems and their original, energetic causes. Thus, foreign energies are not unlike invisible time bombs lurking inside you – often for years – before making their presence felt.

In Alison’s case, she had a foreign energy in her 6th chakra, which is found in the same area as the frontal lobes of the brain. This energy had a male polarity and had been there for several years. It was affecting Alison’s choices in areas such as diet, relationships, work, home environment and so on. She told us she’d had a brief affair almost five years previously, with a friend at work. Now that she thought about it, she’d first started getting rashes a year or so after the start of her office fling (the 6th chakra controls the health of the skin).

Having sex is the most invasive route for a foreign energy to enter your body. Even though your natural energetic immune system will eliminate most of your partner’s energy, some of it will remain behind. It will then start causing losses of energy from one or more areas of your life – your health, relationships, wealth, happiness, inner strength, etc. – depending on where it becomes stable. Your own energy – which enables your body, mind and life to function well – is displaced wherever a foreign energy stabilises in you.

Fortunately, Alison eventually overcame her problems by changing her life in ways that eliminated the foreign energy from her body. The changes she needed to make included moving to a place that was resonant with her energy and developing, with the aid of certain exercises and life practices, one of her innate but dormant abilities or “talents.”

Any Effective Remedy Must Eliminate the Underlying Foreign Energy

Of course, problems can often be overcome simply by taking the correct medication. But it’s true to say that any fully effective remedy for any problem – whether it’s a herb, an antibiotic or a therapy session – always eliminates the underlying foreign energy even though the doctor or practitioner will, more often than not, be completely unaware of it.

Having said this, the more energy aware you become, the easier it is to deal with the foreign energies underlying the challenges in your life. One good way is not to pick them up in the first place!

For example, in Hidden Secrets of Real Health (page 198), we describe a simple test for determining if your current sexual relationship is causing your body to accumulate a harmful foreign energy; or (the one exception) a foreign energy that is positively challenging.

A “positively challenging” foreign energy is energy received from someone else that provides you with more of the resources you need for developing your life, awareness and future well-being. This is the energy of an empowering heart [chakra] relationship. The heart chakra is an energy organ located at a slight indentation about two inches up from the bottom of your sternum. A “heart relationship” is so-called because it includes a resonance between two people’s heart chakras.

The heart chakra is sometimes called the “seat of the spirit within.” This is because those with sufficient energy awareness have observed over thousands of years, a very small yet very bright light at the central root of the heart chakra. This is commonly called the “spirit within.” And it is the only part of the human energy body that is invulnerable to foreign energies.

When a resonance exists between two people’s heart chakras, they have the innate capacity to rise to the challenges that naturally appear from time-to-time in any relationship. By appropriately responding to the challenges that appear, they become stronger and more integrated. Without a heart resonance, a relationship will eventually develop issues that cannot be resolved. Then it will either collapse or some issues will continue to poison or damage the relationship, and thus the people in it, no matter how long it may last.

Think Twice about Sex if you’re not in a Heart Relationship

If you aren’t in a heart relationship, you are better off without an intimate sexual relationship. That way you avoid accumulating life and awareness-damaging foreign energies. And you also increase the space in your life for an empowering relationship to appear in your future – which could be tomorrow!

If you are someone who is interested in developing your energy awareness or higher awareness to see beneath the surface of your life – so it doesn’t seem to just be happening to you much of the time – no form of sex is inherently “safe.” Effective traditional spiritual disciplines don’t advocate chastity because they suffer from some quaint sexual hang-ups but, rather, because people who’ve developed a real awareness of human energy can clearly see how it is so often adversely affected by sex.

So, in reality, “safe sex” is a somewhat misleading term. It may save you from some nasty physical bugs but not from the energetic ones. Think twice about sex if you’re not with someone with whom you have a heart relationship. This will never be a popular message, but you will have a brighter and better future in many ways, if you wait for an empowering heart relationship – and avoid the rest.

Lynda & Stephen Kane

The School of Energy Awareness

Want to bring more awareness into other areas of your life? Bringing energy awareness into your life is a magical and transforming process. Stephen and Lynda Kane live what they teach and have created a spiritually empowering living and practice environment in the French Pyrenees from where they help students and clients all over the world bring more wisdom, spirit and awareness into their daily lives.

Genital Herpes Safe Sex – How Will Having Herpes Affect My Sex Life?

Genital herpes effects around 45 million people in the US alone. There is much emphasis on treatment and reducing outbreaks of this common STD, but very little on the emotional side of the disease. Despite being an incredibly common infection, there is a huge stigma attached to contracting herpes, and sufferers can go through emotional turmoil as a result. One of the more common concerns for new sufferers is the question of how will it affect intimacy and sex?

While finding out you have contracted herpes can be a very turbulent experience, one important thing to realise is it doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. While herpes will certainly mean some changes must occur in your sexual relations, you can still enjoy a full and healthy sex life with herpes.

Genital herpes safe sex means simply applying common sense. While during an actual outbreak of sores, abstaining is likely the best option, but there are other things you can try if your partner is willing and comfortable, such as non-coital sex. This means sexual intimacy without penetration, usually mutual masturbation, touching and caressing. Be sure your partner washes any area of their body that comes into contact with the affected part of your body thoroughly afterwards.

In between outbreaks, use condoms to reduce the risk of transmission. A regular treatment of prescription antiviral or natural antiviral medication will also reduce shedding time (the time when the virus is most likely to be transmitted) and reduce the length and severity of your outbreaks overall.

A few other things you can do in practicing genital herpes safe sex include using a lubricant (less friction will make virus particles less likely to adhere to another location) and washing afterwards with diluted hydrogen peroxide can remove the virus from the skin’s surface. If you don’t have hydrogen peroxide, simple soap and water will also go a long way to preventing transmission.

The Reason I Use Collaskin

I am typically not a vain person. I do wear makeup to help myself look better, and I work out to be in good shape. Other than that though, I have never been the type to go crazy over my appearance. However, when I saw my first wrinkle well before I expected it, I did have a minor meltdown. I knew that I was going to have to finally try one of those anti wrinkle creams that are all the rage for women much older than myself. I compared quite a few, and Collaskin was the clear winner for me.

I was very careful in my research for a skin care product. I selected about eight that my friends told me about, then I went online to learn about each one. I did not want to keep trying different ones until I found the one that works. Continue reading “The Reason I Use Collaskin”

How Safe is Safe Sex?

Almost 3-4 decades ago, people would have sex with multiple partners without worrying about deadly diseases. They would not even use condoms. However, after the spread of fatal illnesses like AIDS, Hepatitis-B and similar infections, people have become more concerned about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). In this article, we want to see how safe is what we call safe-sex?

It is almost impossible to avoid sex and therefore we need to learn about possible dangers of it. We will know about risks and possible workarounds to minimize those threats.

Many people believe that the phrase ‘safe-sex’ is equal to using a condom. Unfortunately the understanding is not correct and this kind of assumption might even increase the spread of sexually transmitted illnesses. People might think they have insured themselves against STDs with a condom and involve themselves with unsafe partners.

Condoms are not 100% reliable. They might break and cause pregnancy or even disease transfer. However, using condom is definitely advised and it will bring down the risk of infection considerably.

We do not want to deny that condoms are a very effective protection. But STDs might be transferred not only from sexual organs, but also from other parts of the body such as mouth. As an example cases have been observed in which AIDS virus has been transferred by oral sex. AIDS virus exists in vaginal fluids and in case of the injuries in mouth or skin, infection might occur. In addition if there are injuries and blood in the mouth of the oral sex giver and no protection is used, the virus can be transferred again.

If you are sexually active or you guess you might have sex, be sure to have a condom with yourself. Learn how to use it correctly and do not forget to use it. It will take 30 seconds to put on a condom while avoiding it might affect your entire life. First rule and the most important one, is to use a condom when having sex. If you are a female, do not agree on having sex without a condom at any circumstances. Having sex with multiple persons at a time using a single condom is also very dangerous and unacceptable.

It is very important to have medical tests before starting a relationship specially a long term one which increases the number of sexual encounters and risk of disease transfer. Also take in mind that some of the diseases need time to appear on tests after the infection. For example AIDS infection might take 3 months to be detected.

People which have sexual relationship with multiple partners and those partners might have sex with other partners are in high risk. This is because a single unhealthy person might transfer the disease to the entire chain very fast. Those having sex with a single partner have a very lower risk of being infected (unless one of the partners has such sexual relationship).

If you have young children in home, we suggest you to teach them about above mentioned information or at least provide it to them. Educating young and unaware people is perhaps the most effective method of decreasing the spread of dangerous sexually transferred diseases. Young people need to know the implications of having risky relationships. Understanding this important point might save their lives.

What is Behind Chronic Yeast Infections?

Candida albicans is a yeast. It occurs naturally in men and women. When it proliferates, it can be a problem. If it begins to grow unchecked by good bacteria that keep it from proliferating, it becomes infectious. It can cause itching, burning and a whitish discharge from the vagina. On the skin, it can appear as red blotches. This usually shows up at areas where the skin comes in contact with itself such as the armpits. Vaginal yeast infections are typically treated with miconazole, but in some places they use a product called Crystal X. It looks like stone that is smooth and is inserted into the vagina after being wet with water.

The problem with just treating Candida albicans topically is that the body does not build up the right combination and amount of good bacteria to keep the yeast from proliferating in the first place. This then results in recurrent yeast infections. Uncontrolled blood glucose levels in diabetes where blood glucose continually runs even a little high can lead to chronic yeast infections. Yeast thrive on sugar, moisture and warmth. Continue reading “What is Behind Chronic Yeast Infections?”